The Science and Silliness of Kissing

Imagine if alien visitors asked you to explain the act of kissing. What would you say?

Think about it. If a spaceship full of aliens landed on earth to observe human behavior, how on earth would we explain the act of kissing? One person touches another person with their lips. Not, of course, lips to lips alone. Lips to cheek, lips to neck, lips to – well, just about any other body part can be considered. Imagine the polite but nevertheless obvious squirming with embarrassment that could be involved on either or both sides of the species divide.

An immediate question might be what is the act for? The reply could constitute the making of a list that even the most avid list-seeker on the internet might find overlong. Tongue nevertheless in cheek, most people would associate kissing with love and sexual desire and the aliens would probably accept this as part of our self-evidently bizarre mating habits. When this basic question is elaborated on, however, to include greeting, respect, sympathy, luck giving, affection and, most puzzlingly, false empathy then who would blame our visitors from outer space for turning tail and leaving this planet in a huff?

The origins of the word are old enough – the Old English language gifted the world the word kiss from their own – ‘cyssan’. Origins of the word aside, the reason for this most simple yet complex act to exist is still perplexing philematologists (those who study kissing). They cannot decide whether or not kissing is a learned behavior or if it is instinctive.

7 Tips on the Perfect Kiss

Kissing is often an overlooked art when it comes to seducing your partner. Obviously there are many types of kisses and they can be used in different settings. Here are some kisses that are used with partners.

Greeting kisses with your partner

• The hello kiss: A quick kiss on the lips which says 'hey babe, how was your day'.
• The hello kiss +: A bit longer than the hello kiss, this kiss says 'hey babe, I was thinking about you today' (eyebrows raised).
• Not even in the door kiss: A passionate kiss which says, well! It kind of speaks for itself.

Lounging about the house kisses:

• Just a quick kiss: A quick kiss just to remind them you love them
• Kids are out playing kiss: A longer kiss followed by the words 'the kids are out playing.................'
• You're getting it tonight kiss: passionate, playful, long and hard saying 'I'm horny!!!'
•Just before sleep kiss: A quick peck on the cheek or lips to say 'goodnight babe'.

Making love kisses:

• Thank god, the painters have left kiss: Menstrual cycle is over and it's time to get back on track
• I really want you kiss: long, passionate, all over the face type of kiss saying 'I'm hungry'
• The spiritual kiss: slow, long, softer, passionate which says 'I love you on a deeper level'

There are a million more types of kisses I've only named 10 of our most popular, sorry! 10 of the most popular ones I have read about and seen on TV. But, what makes a good kiss? How can you improve your kissing? Here are 7 tips to make that perfect kiss:

1.Men: Have a good shave, by this I mean a close shave. Women prefer passionate kissing when the man has had a close shave rather than the man with stubble.
2.An obvious one this but do not eat strong tasting foods like curry or garlic, unless your partner is eating it too.
3.Do not kiss your partner if you have a mouth infection of any kind, viruses can be carried through the saliva when kissing.
4.Make use of your partners body and kiss them all over, kissing is not just meant for the mouth.
5.Vary your kisses from soft, long kisses to hard and passionate kisses
6.Kiss with your eyes open and maintain eye contact, most people close their eyes when kissing, so keeping your eyes open can be different and fun.
7.Do it in private. Most people hate seeing other people kissing in public. I don't mean the quick pecks I mean the passionate ‘I really want you kiss'. Have you ever seen this in the high street, it's gross. Leave the passionate kisses in the privacy of your home or where nobody can see you.

A Kiss is Never Just a Kiss

"Kiss: a secret told to the mouth instead of to the ear." Edmond Rostand

"The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story." Emil Ludwig

"A Kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous." Ingrid Bergman

"Kiss: a thing of use to no one, but prized by two." Robert Zwickey

"On the list of great inventions, kissing ranks higher than the Thermos bottle and the Airstream trailer; even higher than room service, probably because the main reason room service was created was so that people could stay in bed and kiss without starving." Tom Robbins

"Few men know how to kiss well; fortunately, I've always had time to teach them." Mae West

It is really doesn't know what the origin of kissing is. Perhaps it has been around as long as humans themselves, but few would argue that kissing is a very important part of how we connect with those we love, especially that special someone.

What makes a kiss really good and what does not? We have all had kisses that lingered long after the lips have departed. Those are the ones we long to have again. Here are a few simple rules to remember if you want your kisses to be memorable.

First and foremost, be present! The person who is fully present in the moment and engaged in his/her partner is very sexy and quite irresistible. Like a musical instrument, you may have the skill, but the true artist plays with soul. Kissing is no different. When you are fully focused on your partner and what is happening between you, your kiss will convey much more than the physical sensation of your lips touching.

Another important part of kissing is the amount of tension in your lips. Too much tension and you can't merge, too little and it's like a limp handshake. Full lips or thin does not matter. It is technique that is most important. Move your lips around a bit, don't stay static, movement is much more interesting. But be careful here. Too much tongue or too much of an open mouth in the beginning can be a turn off. Also, pay close attention to what your partner is doing and mirror it. Reflecting back his/her actions is one of the best ways to send the message of connection.

If you are kissing someone you really like or kissing a lover, don't be afraid to show how much you are enjoying it by nuzzling the neck or with groans, moans or sighs. These expressions of delight tell your partner what you like and that you are truly enjoying this kissing experience.

Avoid quick pecks on the lips or what I like to call "stamp" kisses. Pecks on the cheek for fun are fine, but if you are going to kiss on the lips, linger a while and give the kiss time to develop. Which reminds me, slooow doowwwn. What's the hurry? Take your time. Whether this is a first kiss or one with a long time partner, kissing is one of the most important and sensual ways we begin to make connection with a lover. Take it slow and enjoy the ride!

The Power of Kissing

A study was recently conducted in which it was discovered that spouses and significant others who sent each other off each day with a kiss were statistically more successful in their work day efforts than those who were not kissed.

Think about it. One additional key to success. It sounds so incredibly simple! But think about it. A kiss is an emotional motivator that touches each one of us on so many different levels. A simple, beautiful act that infuses so much potential!

A kiss is an absolute emotional connection. It is an indication of acceptance and support. It is an overt commitment of togetherness and unity of mind and heart.

Indeed, it is another tool that can be used for success.

But it is a powerful tool, and must be used sincerely to be most effective.

I would propose a slight tweaking of the study’s results. If a good kiss produces good results, could you imagine what an even more intense kiss could do?

I would propose that we add conscientious kissing to our toolbox for success. Perhaps, we could even coin a new phrase, and call it Power Kissing! Learn to convey your excitement for one another’s daily success by Power Kissing each other. Kiss each other with more passion, even intimate passion! Drive one another into a delirious desire to succeed by your own display of affection and support each and every day before you step out the door to face the dragons of business and enterprise.

Simply put, there needs to be an increase of P.D.A. (public/private display of affection) in your everyday life.

Show one another that you care. Give each other the added measure of support that is needed to succeed!